I hope you will find this page helpful in answering some questions you may have around how counselling works, what counselling is and a bit more about me and how I work. If you have any questions which are not answered here please get in touch.
How do I know I need counselling?
You might feel you need someone to talk to in confidence, other than friends and family. Or you may be feeling as though you do not have the time or space to just be honest about things and discuss what is going on in life right now. Things might be difficult for you at the moment for some reason, or there may be something that happened in your past that is on your mind right now. Maybe you have a big decision to make, or are considering making changes in your life and you need some space to talk things through? If any of these are how you feel, then it may be the right time to have some counselling. As well as helping with specific problems, counselling can help if you have a feeling of not being you or not being quite right at the moment.
How will counselling help me?
Counselling gives you some time to think about how you are really feeling, what is important to you and if there are any changes you want to make. It can help you find coping strategies that work for specific problems. Your sessions give you somewhere to be completely honest and not be judged for that, which can be very freeing if you have never experienced this before.
Is counselling confidential?
Very brief notes are kept of our sessions together and your personal details are not kept with these notes. Your sessions in my diary are referred to by a number, not your name. Apart from certain safeguarding/legal reasons or discussions with my supervisor (when you are not identified) your counselling sessions remain confidential. A copy of my privacy statement is available on request.
How much does it cost?
I offer a short initial telephone call free of charge to enable you to find out more about counselling, how I work and if I am the right counsellor for you. It also enables us to check if I have times available which are suitable for you. Please see the ‘fees’ page for current rates for your counselling.
What is Person Centred Counselling?
Person Centred Counselling is providing counselling in a way that is led by you, the client. Some people want to use the sessions to choose what they want to talk about, some prefer to be directed to different issues or given things to do, such as exercises to help understand feelings more or work on coping strategies. My focus is for you to have counselling that works for you, where you feel you are gaining something from your sessions and achieving what you want to. You may be wondering which counselling approach is best and there is no right or wrong answer to that. Person Centred may not work for you and if that is the case, that is absolutely ok.
What qualifications and training do you have?
I have Level 2 Introduction to Counselling, Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills and a Diploma in Person Centred Counselling, gained in 2017. I also do regular training through workshops in person and online. More recently this has included learning regarding offering online and telephone counselling as a result of the pandemic, working with grief and bereavement and working with trauma.
What issues do you work with?
I work with many issues, including but not limited to: anxiety, bereavement, low mood, low self esteem, self harm, stress, rejection, ocd and self confidence. If you have a specific topic you wish to cover and I feel I am not the best person to work with this, I will always let you know and if possible I will refer you on to a counsellor or counselling service who may be more suitable for you.
What organisation are you registered with?
I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP – http://www.bacp.co.uk). I work within their code of ethics at all times. I am also registered with the Information Commissioners Office (ICO), hold a DBS Certificate and have public liability and indemnity insurance.
How often do I need to have counselling sessions?
There is no set answer for this, as we are all different, but I do recommend weekly sessions to begin with if possible. This helps you to feel comfortable and for us to really establish what you would like to use your sessions for. It is also possible to have your counselling fortnightly and you may find you wish to move to this after a few weekly sessions. If you need to arrange counselling around shift work please let me know as this may be possible, dependant on current availability.
Do I have to talk for the whole session?
Not if you don’t want to! Counselling is not only about talking and you may find it easier to express your emotions in other ways. As well as talking, counselling can include creative work such as drawing, using stones or other objects to express your thoughts, more directed exercises to help you focus on and explore specific subjects and more.
How does telephone and online counselling work?
For telephone counselling you will be asked to call me to begin your session at the time agreed – so long as this is possible. For a zoom call you will be sent a link to click on at the time of your session which will connect us. In this way you are beginning the session much as you would arrive at the counselling room if we were meeting in person.
How can I create an appropriate environment for my sessions?
It is important that you are in a room on your own and I also suggest using headphones/earphones if there is any background noise. As much as is possible, interruptions need to be avoided during your session – this may mean putting a ‘do not disturb’ sign on the door if you need to remind those you live with not to come in! Putting some music on in the background can also help to relax you for your session and make it a different environment to that of everyday. Do remember to put any phones etc onto silent or flight/airplane mode. If your counselling is after work or other commitments, try to give yourself some time to wind down a little before your session, grab a cuppa and ensure you are comfortable. This will help you relax and be able to focus more on your counselling.
Will you be returning to in person counselling again?
Face to face sessions are now available on Mondays. For September 2021 these will be in a rented therapy room at Shanti Rooms, 70 Hiltingbury Road, Chandlers Ford. The room has windows which open and adequate time will be left between clients to ensure the room can be fully aired and any required sanitising can be done.
I fully understand that this is not appropriate for everyone and therefore online and telephone sessions will remain an option.
Do you have any social media accounts I can follow?
I have accounts on both Instagram and Facebook which are used for sharing latest editions of my blog, general mental health information and to raise awareness of specific topics. I also share posts from others which I feel may be useful. These can be found at Beau Therapy Counselling and @beautherapy1.